How to Make an Avoidant Partner Fight for You
THIS Makes An Avoidant Fight For You And Not Take You For Granted ๐
00:00 Introduction
Understanding how to make an avoidant partner fight for you involves recognizing their unique emotional needs and behaviors.
01:00 Five Steps to Engagement
- Provide Cool Experiences: Be extraordinary and inspire curiosity.
- Be Super Unavailable: Create scarcity to pique their interest.
- Reach Out: Initiate contact to showcase confidence and strength.
- No Commitments: Maintain emotional independence to ignite their desire for deeper connection.
- Understand Affection Needs: Respect their space to build trust and encourage them to engage.
05:00 Emotional Dynamics
Avoidants often take their partners for granted, leading to a cycle of chasing and emotional distress. Emotional distance can trigger them to reconsider their feelings, especially if they see their partner thriving independently.
10:00 The Importance of Moving On
Letting go of the need to win an avoidant back can paradoxically make them notice your absence. Focusing on personal growth often leads to a shift in dynamics, making you more attractive and prompting them to reconsider the relationship.
15:00 Real-Life Example
The story of Ashley illustrates how her independence and self-sufficiency ultimately made her avoidant ex take notice and want to reconnect.
20:00 Conclusion
Moving on is about personal freedom rather than manipulation. The true transformation occurs when you realize you no longer need the avoidant to feel complete.
What are the five steps to make an avoidant fight for you?
- Provide cool experiences.
- Be super unavailable.
- Reach out to them.
- Avoid making commitments.
- Understand their affection needs.
Why is it important to stop chasing an avoidant?
Chasing them can lead to feelings of neediness and predictability, making you less attractive. Stopping the chase allows you to regain your independence and can spark their interest.
How does personal growth affect an avoidant's perception?
When you focus on your own happiness and goals, it creates a sense of scarcity that may prompt the avoidant to reconsider their feelings and engage with you again.